I know you think like a man, which is why it's easy for me to relate to you. You don't accept societal norms so much, and instead choose your own path. It's funny though in real life, the reactions you get, especially when you look feminine and appear to be a certain type of girl. Then when men realize that you're more than a girl, you're a woman, they seem confused and not sure how to deal with you.
Do you get that type of reaction from the masculine sex? I do. They always say, "you're so different" with a perplexed look. It's like, "I like it, I think." ROFL!
I am very feminine looking as well. So at first the guys treat me just the way they treat all other women. It takes them a while to get who I really am and often times, they don't make it that far. But it's also true that I don't go all gung ho on them initially. I have the tendency to unfold slowly (in person) and I will unfold a lot if I am genuinely interested in them but often times, I am not so I don't bother. So I don't think there's anyone out there who knows even a slice of me. lol
But there were incidents where some people did say straight to my face that I might just be from another planet or another time or another dimension or something to that effect - mainly because they could not figure me out at all. I've always taken those as compliments. I never expect them to get me anyway. 
I am glad you are different too in your own unique way. You've made a difference for yourself.
I have the same experience, Emma, especially as it pertains to men. They usually spot it quickly and seem perplexed. But, I love it, because they understand very quickly that I won't be putting up with crap for the sake of having a man. It takes someone special to really pique my attention. Intellect is a number one priority. But, I have been very fortunate in the area of mates, (except for that last one). He wasn't a bad guy, but we were never going to be on the same page. He was too concerned with materialism and keeping up appearances. We get along very well, but never again.
In my other long term relationships I was extremely blessed. My first husband was the best person I have ever met in my life, and my first boyfriend ran a close second. My first husband died prematurely and TBH I don't think I would ever find anyone who measured up to him. He was that kind, funny, and considerate.
Wow, I say (the bolded) all the time. So many times people don't realize the difference between a female and a woman, or a man or a male. It does confuse the opposite sex when a woman has substance.